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Baby at play: It's how they learn to interact, so try to keep it easy and funFeb 23, 2010 (The Honolulu Advertiser - McClatchy-Tribune Information Services via COMTEX) -- Sarah Burns of Lahaina recalls what playtime was like with her first baby. Burns was extremely careful during those first few weeks. "Oh, yeah, most definitely, I was much more afraid," said Burns, 32, whose son is now 5. She also has a 2-year-old daughter. Many first-time parents are hesitant to interact and play with their tiny, seemingly fragile newborn bundles. On top of that, newbie mommies and daddies may be unclear as to what "playtime" actually entails. "People think 'play' means you've got to bust out the toys and be really active," said Heather Wittenberg, a licensed psychologist from Pukalani who specializes in the development of babies, toddlers, preschoolers and parents. "The truth is, it's much more subtle than that." Playtime is simple and doesn't require expensive, fancy toys -- just the natural interaction between parent and baby, said Wittenberg, who is also the creator of www.BabyShrink.com, a Web site that offers information and support on child and parent development. "Cuddling, cooing, smiling and talking to your baby are the best ways to 'play' with your newborn," said Dr. Michael H.T. Sia, a pediatrician and chairman of the department of pediatrics at Kapi'olani Medical Center for Women & Children. Ideas to stimulate baby include simply carrying him, which provides the perfect vantage point for a wakeful newborn, as well as giving her a lot of different things to look at, said Sia, crediting British child psychologist Penelope Leach, who spent decades writing about child development. Leach noted that while infants are not able to see anything more than a foot away in great detail, they still enjoy the play of shadows, contrasts and shapes that light brings. Cutouts with black and white patterns also fascinate newborns. But "never feel guilty or stressed out about not stimulating your newborn's brain development," Sia added. "Einstein never used flash cards." Burns, a writer for The www.OhanaMama.com, quickly got over her new-parent jitters. She said favorite "playtime" activities with her newborn children included simple activities such as playing peek-a-boo on her lap, talking while doing the dishes and doing push-ups over baby while stealing kisses. As much as parents should make it a priority to play with their babies every day, older siblings are encouraged to "play" with them too, said Wittenberg, who has four children ages 8, 7, 4 and 4 months. "Your baby will respond differently to each family member," she said. And the benefits of playtime go beyond bonding between baby and loved ones. "It is the means by which babies learn to interact with others, make their needs known and get their needs met," Wittenberg said. "Babies learn via play as they try out new behaviors and see what happens." For instance, Wittenberg said, a baby might wonder: If I want my Mommy to smile back at me, do I get better results by screaming, or by smiling and acting cute? "So early play is the foundation of all communication and learning," Wittenberg said. Burns advises first-time parents to play in "little spurts," keep things simple and feel absolutely no pressure. "Just know that everything you do with them, they're soaking it all in," Burns said. Reach Zenaida Serrano at 535-8174. Follow her Twitter updates at www.twitter.com/zenaidaserrano. Reach Zenaida Serrano at [email protected]. To see more of The Honolulu Advertiser or to subscribe to the newspaper, go to http://www.honoluluadvertiser.com. Copyright (c) 2010, The Honolulu Advertiser Distributed by McClatchy-Tribune Information Services. For reprints, email [email protected], call 800-374-7985 or 847-635-6550, send a fax to 847-635-6968, or write to The Permissions Group Inc., 1247 Milwaukee Ave., Suite 303, Glenview, IL 60025, USA. |